I FOUND MY ‘BROTHER’
CORNERSTONE STATEMENT:
There are women and men bestowed with the gift to answer the ultimate question. That question is ‘WHY’. They are charged with rendering an answer that can be understood by the most contrary element of our society. Those that foment, spread and traffic in hate. Our Brothers are in need of guidance and this journal will bring forth a multitude of remedies to address the male illness of unawareness. The answer to the ultimate unknowns of behavior and responsibility.
Those of us given this perception and understanding to interpret the unknown and apply the information to the known is the essence of our charge. Thereafter decode the messages for the people who oppose themselves. This decryption is then presented to the people as the explanation of events past, present and future so they may keep updated to the frenetic changes occurring today and those that will arrive soon.
Brothers, this journal is a call to all of you to obtain the knowledge that you lack in every part of your lives. As sons. As brothers. As fathers. As grandfathers. As uncles. As cousins. Ignorance will no longer be tolerated, encouraged or celebrated. As the ‘First Father’ has said in his Holy Bible “let everything be done decently and in order”. Honor and truth will not be perverted anymore. Why? Because as a Black Man I will impart all I have learned and gathered for over 56 years of life in America and around the world to the young coming behind me and my elders above me. Why? Things that now appear as they do will begin to appear as they should be according to what is right? Help me see to it as this mandate has been divinely ordered.
Issue 8: The Spirit of Truth!
All the news the last few days around ‘suicide’ being front and center requires that the record be set straight. Mr. Stephen Laurel ‘tWitch’ Boss died by suicide which in itself should be left as is, but the reason I’m writing this post is how he is described as being ‘inspirational’ ‘a light’ and bringing ‘joy’. This cannot be reconciled or squared with the way he chose to end his life. As tragic as suicide is to the memory of the person’s name; it is more tragic and mentally destructive to the family he leaves behind.
The Authorized King James version of the Holy Bible 1 John 4:6…We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error. Mr. Stephen did something that will affect his family for the rest of their lives. It is alright for them to mourn, but it doesn’t eliminate the power of the act he committed and the everlasting effects it has bought upon them. The rest of us being society at large and those he worked with cannot reduce the weight of that truth in any meaningful way. Trust me as I work in mental health and speaking of what happened in truth is the only way to place it properly in the timeline of their lives.
The Authorized King James version of the Holy Bible Ecclesiastes 10:1…Dead flies cause the ointment of the apothecary to send forth a stinking savour: so doth a little folly him that is in reputation for wisdom and honour. Every act we do on this planet is a record kept under our name. We can decide what we will be remembered for whether it is good or evil. Disputed or undisputed. Selfish or unselfish. Uncharacteristic or spot on about our behavior. Our name is all we have at the end of day. God doesn’t want us to lose out on a lifetime of truth, honor or decency with an act judged as misguided. God wants us to have the legacy of our choosing.
Do us all a favor and stop saying things like he or she lights up a room. Brings down the house with joy for all. The words this person used are great words of inspiration. They are, but are they appropriate to describe a life so unceremoniously ended by their own hand? My focus is on those that shared the love of the life that ended unnaturally. Children do not yet possess the depth of understanding or even the slightest ability to overcome the finality of life. Do not create a facade around what happened for them. The truth is ‘ALWAYS’ better than a fantastical ‘LIE’.
In mental health we know by years of schooling aligned with years of training in observation that what’s below the surface is what we need to see. Eagles train their young to fly which is great, but the greatest skill they pass on is the skill to see below the surface of the water. Watch a video of an eagle swooping down to snatch a fish out of the water and tell me that’s not impressive as ‘F’! Why? Look at the act closely as the eagle contorts, adjusts wing span, waits to fully extend the claws, and lastly grabs the fish from the water.
What if one day the children that are left behind say they are going to live with the parent that committed suicide? Everybody lauding praise on my parent why won’t they say the same thing about me if I kill myself? Make it clear that what the parent did was wrong. It is okay to say just that! Listen to me. All those that are capable of love listen to me now. If you want to save the ones you love including yourself, learn certain skills or get your people to a professional right away.
I’d rather hear from the person thinking of committing suicide first hand than listen to false or empty platitudes after the fact from the very people that supposedly knew him the most.
Written by: Victor E. Moseley
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