I FOUND MY ‘BROTHER’
There are women and men bestowed with the gift to answer the ultimate question. That question is ‘WHY’. They are charged with rendering an answer that can be understood by the most contrary element of our society. Those that foment, spread and traffic in hate. Our Brothers are in need of guidance and this journal will bring forth a multitude of remedies to address the male illness of unawareness. The answer to the ultimate unknowns of behavior and responsibility.
Those of us given this perception and understanding to interpret the unknown and apply the information to the known is the essence of our charge. Thereafter decode the messages for the people who oppose themselves. This decryption is then presented to the people as the explanation of events past, present and future so they may keep updated to the frenetic changes occurring today and those that will arrive soon.
Brothers, this journal is a call to all of you to obtain the knowledge that you lack in every part of your lives. As sons. As brothers. As fathers. As grandfathers. As uncles. As cousins. Ignorance will no longer be tolerated, encouraged or celebrated. As the ‘First Father’ has said in his Holy Bible “let everything be done decently and in order”. Honor and truth will not be perverted anymore. Why? Because as a Black Man I will impart all I have learned and gathered for over 54 years of life in America and around the world to the young coming behind me and my elders above me. Why? Things that now appear as they do will begin to appear as they should be according to what is right? Help me see to it as this mandate has been divinely ordered.
What Happens When the Bombardment Begins?
The bombardment I’m referring to in this journal issue is the bombardment of what goes with that choice. Every decision has applied tasks and implied tasks. If two human beings choose to get married in the traditional male and female union, there are some preparations that must be started for the joining to be successful. The needs each partner has which covers commitment, trust, love and financial security. Which of these structural necessities that order an agreeable union could be discarded when trials and tribulations strike a family? Commitment perhaps? Maybe trust or love? Financial security is a deal breaker because both partners must be able to survive and money is a necessity.
Why don’t we bombard a Black man with confusion when it comes to the requirements to forming a family? Blind his senses in ways that lead him to believe that just the act of marriage is all that is important and the other needs will be added in time. Love will keep us together. Love conquers all. Where there is love there is hope. Love is unconditional (this one I believe is the stupidest bumper sticker façade ever created). Oh, just forget the promises inserted throughout the marriage vows. Let me go one better just to please the ‘helium head romantics’. Even God has requirements on how to show your love for him does he not?
Then the bombardment starts. The dwelling place is in jeopardy because the income that is supposed to provide for a decent living is no more adequate. Momma and baby are crying, in different ways for sure, that this situation is starting to not be the one they signed up for. Health care is a critical need from teeth to toes and right now a doctor is unaffordable. Now somebody need to come up with some solutions because this moment in time is now unsustainable. Then it happens. Like a fox sliding through a hole in a chicken fence and nothing but ‘air and opportunity’ between him and the hen house. Separation! All too often it is the endgame for many Black men to get out from under the pressure of a family.
All the foolish slogans of joy in every part of life vary slightly in wording throughout the history of Black America. There will be many more times I will state the truth even if it should be obvious. ‘Know what you are getting yourself into before you make that decision’. Once a marriage is sealed and children are born the valves are open and cannot be closed again. A new life has needs and requirements that are nonnegotiable. That is the destruction of the Black family. That is the confusion that has been cultivated from years of the vile cruelty of slavery. That is why some of our people still go around thinking they can be a ‘self-made man’. What nonsense! No, I will not waste space in this journal explaining why that concept is horse dung.
This may sound simple but the potency is beyond measure. Do not abandon your support system! The best way to back up this edition? The words of the First Father in the Authorized King James version Holy Bible. Ecclesiastes 4 verse 10: “For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.” Maybe this one will reinforce itself. Ecclesiastes 4 verse 12: “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” This is one of the cruelest facets of the legacy of slavery. White men did not just strip the Black man of all his dignity; they made sure to dismantle all that the Black man knew would keep him strong. His family! So no sir! We are still hammering away at the outer wall of that monolith and someday we are going to get inside and when we do we are going to set the ‘righteous charges of God on every pillar’ and bring down the whole super structure of hatred and oppression on itself.