Okay let’s be frank here. Everybody wants something better than what they have at some point along the course of their life. A new car or truck that operates better in all weather seasons of the year. The latest and greatest computer that responds to commands at the speed of light (I know you believed I would say of thought, but some people aren’t that bright) because we hate waiting for apps to load.
All the wonder of a new relationship that is going to fix all the mistakes of the past. Well let me turn the dial (the volume down) to the left on your fantasies. Maybe sir or ma’am, the best option is what you have right in front of you. Reality check. You are not the juiciest steak off the rib eye. You are not the chocolate chip cookie that rushes straight to the brain the moment you take a bite.
Practical exercise time. Take a sheet of paper and number it from 1 to 10 with all the qualities we would like to see in a mate. This exam is meant to be unisex. Starting: 1. Good provider. 2. Well groomed. 3. Consistent in actions. 4. A little overweight. 5. Doesn’t bring trouble to my door. 6. Committed to the family. 7. Can cook and clean in the house. 8. Spends too much on clothes. 9. Letting their appearance lapse a bit. 10. God fearing with a unique sense of spirituality.
Now most people would look at this list and immediately check off 2 or 3 things that would put the kybosh on the deal. What the heck is wrong with a person (mate) that has 7 out of 10 good qualities? Trust me, I ran this exercise on myself and got yanked back to reality. The qualities I possess are pretty solid, but I still can’t jump (not at my age) from mate to mate thinking I’m God’s gift to a stable home life. Sh_ _t don’t work like that homeboy!
Maybe the best option is the one you already have huh? Improve on your outlook about life and then maybe your mate will come along for the ride and make you both better partners at home. Option two could be the worst mistake of your life.
Hopefully you are a good person in a habitat with a person that relates to your desires and views about life. If not. Then maybe option two is the best choice for you after you clean up some things about yourself that made you choose a bad option in the first place.