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Follow the Light That’s On

Oh if it were as simply as the topic suggests. How many of us have followed other people knowing their light was no longer burning bright? Maybe the dimming effect has set in and we still hold on hoping it would brighten to full strength sometime soon. Our minds start contemplating the worse scenario. The light is out and it will not shine ever again.

How do these predicaments come about in our lives? It could be because of the old saying. “The grass is greener on the other side.” The silliest reasoning can break up a marriage. The man or woman could fret that something is missing and I don’t want my life to end knowing I lost out. They start looking away from what could be the best home they are entitled to receive. The view could be beautiful and spectacular from a distance, but a close-up could indicate ugliness and destruction.

Would this deter a common sense person reasoning justly when it concerns his or her home? Not all the time it would. Most of the time a person chooses (leaves their marriage and family) outer darkness as they are blinded by the brightness of the rising horizon. Other people shine brightly when they are drawing you away from a stable home. As the saying goes, ‘blinded by the light’.

Yes I realize it is not always another person enticing a spouse away from a home they know is good for him or her. Most of the time it is a friend (masquerading as an enemy) feeding false conclusions that supports unfounded anger in the spouse’s heart. Listen to me; don’t be married to three people! If a situation is breeding conflict in the home, I suggest speaking to a trusted friend that will not tell you what you want to hear.

The light is always on in the distance is a lie. It is an optical illusion set up to support bad reasoning and the poor judgment that occurs when we are angry, hurt and confused. View your marriage and your life in its totality. A good solid stable home is not created by accident.

Follow the light that is on means keep your home burning bright by treating each other right. Judge your home by what you have done for each other and not by outside individuals who caught you in a moment of weakness. Third parties that mean you no good will tell you to break up a stable home! Yes that is what they are telling you. If you are giving each other good for good, a snake in the grass will elevate your anger and cause you to destroy your home!

Everybody is not your friend. A spouse is your spouse first! You are not entitled to take out all your bad decisions in your life on your spouse. Your spouse is not your release for all your stupidity. This last sentence is a huge awakening for both genders. It takes two to tango and two to keep warm. Figure out what that means. Hint, don’t be cold or you just might be cold alone.

What Is Returned Unto You? Decide.

It is a topic often discussed with like-minded people. Does it matter how you treat other people? Should I give back good to the good that is given me, or does it matter if I give back evil for the good that is given unto me? This subject is contemplated throughout many interactions with people whom we know harbor no good will to other people.   What should be our course of action then?

 

First, it matters how you return treatment of others in kind which could answer whether your life sees constant success or consistent failure. The notion that a human being can go around doing whatever they want whether good or bad, and the consequences resulting aren’t tied to behavior is ludicrous!

 

A boss ignores a solid employees’ work performance by choosing to give an open position, which the employee put in a fair application, could be thought of as disloyal to a loyal employee. I know you’re thinking the boss has the right to promote whom he or she wants. Does he really? A worker proven should be selected first. That is the good that will come back to you. An unknown commodity could work a day, week or a month and quit (or not show up at all!). That is the evil returned to you when you should have chosen the employee that applied for the job!

 

Families interacting daily in a close-knit tribal like setting. Good should be flowing back and forth and swirling around from floor to ceiling within that home. Try if you want introducing evil by not giving well for the good that is given you in your home and see what results. That new job you wanted is filled. The money you’ve been saving is eaten by an emergency. An illness befalls you and you miss a week of work.

 

Ask yourself, are you returning evil in your life for the good bestowed upon you by nice people? Let me be clear. You are not going to be successful long term by interchanging evil for the good that comes your way! Stop blaming the world for your faulty wiring and change your central processing unit! Something is not right in how your thinking leads you to believe you can do all the wrong in the world, and only right and good things will come back to you.

 

Quit behaving as if lying, rudeness or acting like everyone owes me and I don’t need to say thank you. A person will attract good if their heart tends to goodness. If your heart tends to mischief, then you will certainly receive mischief in-kind. Simple is it not, how life can be explained.

False Positive: A Good Time

Man, most people would say in the midst of making six decisions, which results in one favorable outcome; they had a good time and would do it over again if they could. I fondly (false happiness in this case) remember going out to dinner, seeing a movie, and buying a $100 dollar pair of Nikes in the course of a week and not being able to pay my power bill at the end of the month. Yes sir, in the throws of delusional good times; I was residing in a structure of my own making that was steadily crumbling all around me.

The focuses were not on the five other things I had to upkeep and manage to have a chance at a stable life. The focus was on one thing. Pleasure. Whether that meant going to dinner, a movie or pursuing women. Shopping with money I needed to pay bills, or loaning money to a friend instead of paying my own obligations. Yes people, there is pleasure in being thought of as always having money in times of need.

Sacrifices were not made to better my life, but to have fun in part because other people said I needed to enjoy my life. The better part of 10 years was wasted in pursuit of pleasure. Realize this now; you can be blinded to all the critical parts of your life that will bring you contentment because pleasure imprisons your mind. Till your land (your mind, your brain) means to figure out what sort of life will look like success when you train your mind and lay a path to a life worthy of applause.

Don’t believe me? Ignore that nagging voice telling you the car is about to cease functioning. Ignore the voice warning you that a dinner date costing $55 dollars for two meals could have paid for 12 at the grocery store. Ignore the voice telling you to save $50 dollars a month in case of an emergency. Ignore the voice telling you to not have a baby (male and female contributors) because you are barely able to feed and clothe yourselves now!

What have I learned? Laugh at myself often because it is a relief to know I broke free of the bondage of pleasure because I accepted one truth. Never did I win in the pursuit of pleasure! The score for me at the end of that game was: Victor 0, and Pleasure 100. The 5 important things that needed my attention were left to die on the vine because they weren’t getting any water from me. I came out of that life with nothing tangible to show for it! I lost every time while playing that game and I quit before it completely destroyed me.

Don’t do this either. Don’t look back on only the pleasure and ignore all the losses in the midst of your insanity. Don’t do it. If you choose to do it, tell yourself the truth and acknowledge what a life of despair you had. Don’t get washed and return to wallowing in the mire. Call it what it was and be thankful you got out in time.

If you want to have fun or pursue pleasurable activities, I recommend one rule. If you have the money or time to spend without it hurting, then have a good time and afterwards get back to work. If you are faking the funk to impress others or yourself, stop before you embarrass yourself.

Tilling your land will grow your seeds (education, specific skills, character, morality, etc.…) to make a time of harvest (your life) greater than the field that gave it growth.